Month: September 2013

Acceptance

I’ve had my ups and downs when it comes to relationships. I used to be a very controlling boyfriend and I wasn’t aware about that back then. I thought that I was just being protective and was being a good boyfriend, but unfortunately, it was the exact opposite. When successive relationships with different girls begin failing of the same reason, then it must really a fault of mine. I’ve worked on it long and hard to accept that all the failed ones were my fault and I learned it the hard way. I was so depressed for a long time as how to get over someone you love was always a question on my mind.

After those failed relationships, I tried accepting that I’ll always be alone, but friends of mine don’t believe that because they told me that I’m a very sweet and caring person. I just don’t know how to channel it in a better way. My friends helped me to stand on my two feet again and start from scratch. They told me that I have nothing to lose and I have everything to gain from this experience.

After a long hiatus from dating, I’ve learned that no failed relationships are a waste of time as it is an opportunity to learn from the past mistakes and never ever do it again. Failed relationships are always the perfect teaching tool as we’ve been badly wounded by it thus we’d never want it to happen again. We should know how to let go of the past and move on to greener pastures. I know it’s going to be hard, but at least you should try. I know, I did and it is one of the best experiences that life has offered me. When I look back at my past, I just see it as a learning experience. I’ve learned to let go all of my bitterness and excess baggage because it just makes us insane with regret, anger and vengeance.

No relationship is perfect so we don’t have no right to point fingers at each other. What’s more important is the willingness to compromise, to learn to be humble, to swallow your pride and always be ready to forgive. It took me a long time to realize that, but I’m glad that I did. Tasha and I have been together for a number of years now and I’m very proud of myself that I’ve really changed for the better. I now realized that it is also needed to let my partner choose for herself too, as it is the individual’s way to grow and mature as a person. I shouldn’t hinder her growth just because I don’t want her to get hurt. Failing doesn’t mean as much, but learning from it is the most important that a person can do in his lifetime.

I hope, this post may help many people who are currently experiencing heartbreaks. Don’t fret because you are not alone. You have friends that will help you go through that process of moving on.